Roberta “Rob” McKelvy

June 20, 1953 - February 22, 2024

06/20/1953 - 02/22/2024

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Funeral Service
Saturday March 02, 2024
10:30 am
Grace Blue Ridge Church
109 Florence St.
Hendersonville, NC 28792
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A time of visitation will be after the service at the church.

Roberta “Rob” McKelvy passed away on February 22, 2024, in Hendersonville, North Carolina following a six-month battle with a serious illness.

Rob was born on June 20, 1953, in Beaufort, South Carolina to Fred and Mildred “Millie” (VanDomelen) Norcross.  Millie died when Rob was a young child, but Millie’s kind, loving presence left a lasting impression on Rob that would become a source of strength throughout Rob’s life.  Rob also found strength in her relationship with her older brother Tom.  Together, Tom and Rob experienced the simple joys of childhood, helped each other navigate a world without their mother, and became lifelong friends and confidants.  Tom preceded Rob in death, along with her parents Millie and Fred.

As a result of her early challenges, Rob became determined, self-reliant, and highly capable.  She earned a degree from Baylor University in 1974 and entered the healthcare field as a medical technologist.  While working as a medical technologist, Rob met a doctor named Warren.  Rob and Warren married in 1981 and remained married until Rob’s death in 2024.

Rob and Warren settled in Roswell, New Mexico, and raised four boys: Ian, Zach, Mark, and Luke.  Rob was a dedicated mother and a rock for her family.  She established the daily rhythm and provided a sense of order, stability, and tradition.  She also homeschooled Mark and Luke while still managing to find the time to regularly bring the family together over a home-cooked meal.  Rob taught her children right from wrong, her love of baseball, and the importance of health and fitness, among many other things.  After her children spread their wings and left the nest, Rob always provided a place to come back to, and she worked tirelessly to keep the family connection alive with regular photos, letters, and journals.  Over time she became a proud grandmother to six grandchildren: Erynn, Reid, Adisynn, Tiegann, Tate, and Sawyer.

Rob and Warren eventually moved to Hendersonville, North Carolina following Warren’s retirement.  In North Carolina, Rob’s outgoing nature, energy, and curiosity allowed her to discover new activities and make fast friends.  She loved hiking with her new friends, honing her photography skills with her camera club, and unwinding at weekly movie nights.

Perhaps most importantly, Rob was a woman of God.  Her faith touched every aspect of her life.  She was an active church participant, led Bible studies and small groups, and contributed to organizations centered around strengthening the family.  She used her faith to lift up her friends and family, and she never hesitated to share what she believed.  She studied the Bible regularly, and she looked to God to direct her path until He took her home.

The family is grateful to the staff at the Four Seasons Elizabeth House for all of their support and care, to Alan Parnell at Forest Lawn for his personal touch and compassion, and to all of Rob’s friends for their help through a difficult time.

A memorial service will be held at Grace Blue Ridge Church, 109 Florence Street, Hendersonville, NC 28792 on Saturday, March 2 at 10:30 AM.  Pastor Chas Morris will be officiating.

A second memorial service will be held at Grace Community Church, 935 W Mescalero Road, Roswell, NM 88201 on Wednesday, March 6 at 10:00 AM.  Pastor Rick Hale will be officiating.

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1 month ago

To the whole family, All of your midwestern cousins are thinking of you and are very saddened by your loss of Roberta. I recall fondly a wonderful weekend visit by Roberta at our home in Wisconsin. My Mother was Millie’s elder sister, so Rob asked to visit to hear family stories of her Mother (from my Mom). My Mother was happy to have Roberta as a guest and they talked for hours! I was in high school at the time, and joined in to hear memories and stories about Millie (Rob’s Mom). The visit was especially fun, as Rob had one of her sons along (he was 2-3 at the time). A very important visit in many ways, and we still cherish it. Prayers to you all for comfort and peace. Aloha. Kay Fahlstrom, California

Chuck Wongchong
1 month ago

As I sit here thinking about You, Rob, I find it difficult to contain my grief and sorrow over the passing of such a beautiful, wonderful person both inside and out…. When you walked into my gym you were always happy to be there. Being such a warm, generous and thoughtful person you always celebrated special occasions with your homemade treats and snacks. Nothing like getting homemade mayo, macadamia nuts to name a few.
Rob, you will be missed beyond belief….
Fly you wonderful Angel!! Til we meet again…

Debra Nesbitt
1 month ago

I’m so sorry to hear about Rob, and what a beautiful tribute to her in the obituary. I didn’t know her well but she always had the kindest smile and nice words to say when I saw her at workouts. I was always leaving class when she was coming in, and she was so sweet. I am praying for comfort and peace for your family.

Doug Ranson
1 month ago

My friendship with Rob and at that time the Norcross family came through my brother’s connection with Rob’s brother Tom .. Tom and my brother were aviation college roommates .. Tom was one of those people you loved to be around and his death affected me greatly but somehow brought Rob and I closer together .. this turned out to be a great blessing on so many levels for me .. I got to know and enjoy much with the McKelvys .. playing basketball, and triathlons, and a shift in my political thinking with / through Warren .. I watched and learned in the McKelvys what authentic Christianity looks in a family setting .. this led to a spiritual renewal for me which has eternal benefits and blessings .. that is a pretty hard thing to adequately thank someone for but that is what’s I feel Rob, and really all the McKelvys, have meant to me .. thank you for all the fond memories and I do truly regret that there will be no new ones until we meet again on the other side .. R.I.P. my friend .. and my thanks and prayers to the family ..

Teddy Webb
1 month ago

Rest in peace Miss Rob. It was a joy to watch you give these umpires an earful!

Jennifer Salas
1 month ago

Aunt Rob was everything you described here and more.

Theresa Modugno Dattilo
1 month ago

Sincere condolences to the family and friends of Rob. Beautiful tribute to Rob’s many accomplishments and a life filled with memories. I most enjoyed Rob’s photos over the years and her faith and love of family. Gone too soon from the earthly world but the Lord has opened his welcoming arms to the kingdom of heaven. May she rest in peace. Love Theresa